Ill preface this by saying Ill tell this in parts. Part 1 is mainly going to be centered around her childhood, and her time with my father. Its going to be a long entry regardless.
Sadly I know VERY little about her. Im not sure there was much to tell or to learn. But sometimes I think differently. My memories cant be all there is to know.
Born #5 and the last baby girl to Gma S in 1963.
I dont really know how she fit in with the rest of her sisters. She was alot younger then them so she stuck to her brother. Uncle J. They were like glue. Im not going into detail about him yet. He will have his own post. I dont know much about her childhood, until she met my father. I guess he will have a post all on his own too. But its like I cant talk abut her without mentioning them......in her short 25yrs of life they were big parts of it.
Ive never really asked gma about moms childhood....I guess she cant really speak for the dead. I know she worried about mom alot. Gma had 2 girls that were a hand full, mom and Aunt H. Aunt H liked the boys! ;) & mom just had a thing for my dad. Who no one liked!
They met in High School when they were 16. So I guess 1979.....he was a bad boy, and didnt stay in one place long bc of the family business. His father my Gpa D was a contractor and traveled all over bidding government jobs etc. From what my dad tells me they were HS sweethearts. What little bit they stayed in HS. Its been told to me my whole life and I see it now he was a bad influence on her. She truly did love him and would follow him anywhere.
She did. Right out of her bedroom window. Ran away to Louisiana. They were 17. Crazy kids you say....I say stupid. So did the rest of my family. But it is what it is. I really dont want to say he was the sole cause for the drugs. He prob wasnt. She liked them later in life too, but gma always swore he started it. But then again she had so many children Im sure it was hard to keep tabs on all of them. Uncle J liked glue.....he said so to me later on. I know they all tried pot, acid, speed, whatever they could at that age. But I think on the Louisiana trip things changed. Namely I was coming along.
So I guess they came back.....or they came back long enough to say they were getting married and my fathers family relocated to an hour S of my Gma in Winston. Thats where they settled and married......in the Asheboro/Seagrove area. I have a whole album of their wedding, and it was really nice. Small budget of course but nicely done. She was a really pretty bride, my dad had the powder blue tux and all of our family was there, Aunt H & BJ as bridesmaids, and my big cousin D as the ring bearer. Even my biological grandfather was there, who gave her away. They all loved her. They all supported the 2 of them. They were kids. Momma wasnt 18 yet, so I guess gma had to sign for her to get married. Shes always let us make our choices and deal with the consequences later, Im sure this situation was no different. The wedding was in November.
I was born in July. You do the math ;) No one knew I was on the way from what I gather until after the wedding. Gma wouldve had a stroke at this time.......big no no. Momma knew it. Or maybe Gma did know it, and thats why she allowed it to happen. 1981 was a year for babies....I have 4 cousins all born that year. Feb, April, July & Nov. It was busy! & it made Gma S a gma AGAIN @ 43. 43!!!!!
Ive only heard one thing about mommas preganancy and Im not 100% it is true. I dont think my dad would do that......but in a stupor maybe he would. I was told he wanted momma to drink and do drugs with him while she was pregnant with me. But now Im thinking it was after I had came along. When married life was getting boring. When the demands of it all was just too much and he was ready to take off again.
While they lived in the Asheboro area they made good friends with another couple their age. D&B. They were good friends for a long time. & thankfully D is still in my life today. I have lots of 2nd moms and shes one. I know they "partied" with these new friends alot. But as women do they tire of the partying after a while. At least D did. I think that is all that momma ever knew outside of taking care of me. When it was me, it was me full force. When she let loose w/out me she let loose.
I guess dad got tired of married life when I was 6m. He took off....there were other fights before this I know. Gma told me many times she had to come down bc momma had asked for help. My Dad just loved that. But at any rate he left. I have no idea what we did. I dont know if we stayed in Asheboro or not. I want to say we did for a little while. But when my memories begin we lived in Greensboro.
Thankfully I only remember living in 2 places before moving in with gma permanently. We lived in Greensboro in a trailer park that had a pool. I remember loving it there. Just because there were so many kids my age and it wasnt so busy that I could be outside and I got to go swimming. While living in Greensboro I visited with my Gma D alot on the weekends. I never saw my dad, but I did visit with them and they were good visits. My mom was hesitant bc she couldnt get anything out of my Gma as to where my dad was at the time. She needed financial help and he was no where to be found - or served! From what I see now Gma D very well could not have known where he was. If he was a sneaky then as he is now I dont think anyone knew bc he didnt want to be found.
This is where my memories begin. The hard memories. They begin in kindergarten. I like my school, had a few friends in the trailer park we lived in, and loved the swimming pool. & momma had a Girlfriend.
Where part 2 begins.
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